Your emotional intelligence is a type of IQ. When you think of IQ, you think of your brain and how smart you are. This translates into how well you are able to solve problems and figure things out using your brain or intellect. Your emotional intelligence, referred to as your EQ, is your ability to decipher the emotional clues you are getting from within and applying that information (intelligence) to your decision-making process. Your emotions serve as an internal compass. Think of emotions as the internal warning system that safeguards your integrity. Your integrity is made up of your values and beliefs and your life experiences. Think of your integrity as invisible packaging that surrounds who you are as a person. It’s your bubble. And, everyone has their own, unique bubble.
Anytime you make a decision, you are in essence supporting who you are and your integrity. Any decision you make that doesn’t support who you are is going to feel uncomfortable and will create uncomfortable feelings inside of you. Feelings are there to clue you in to the fact that whatever you are doing (or not doing) is not aligning with your integrity.
Feelings are designed to come into your radar for the amount of time it takes to get your attention and clue you in to the action you need to take in the situation. If you listen to the feelings (and their intelligence) and take appropriate action, the feeling will go away naturally…and quickly.
In this series, we will look at 12 individual feelings and define what each one’s purpose is and the action it’s trying to tell you to take. We will start with the feeling of Anger. You’ll be surprised at how beneficial anger is when used properly. It is the main emotion present when your integrity is being threatened.
This blog post was provided by Cindy M. Nelson, M.B.A., C.S.L.C. from Anakh Leadership Coaching LLC. We specialize in developing business leaders and professionals by increasing self-awareness and emotional intelligence to achieve better results and satisfaction in their lives. For more information, please go to aleadershipcoach.com.
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