The Emotional Intelligence of Worry

ByCindy M. Nelson, M.B.A., C.S.L.C.

The Emotional Intelligence of Worry

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Do you procrastinate?  Procrastination is a sign that you are feeling worried about something.  Worry is the uncomfortable feeling present when you need to take action on the project at hand.  If you don’t use the energy of Worry to motivate you to take action, you will procrastinate and not take the steps necessary for you to succeed.  Once you take the necessary actions and feel well prepared, the feeling of Worry will dissipate quickly.  If you find yourself procrastinating or feeling helpless in a situation, check in with yourself to see if there is some unfinished business that you need to take care of.  Let’s look at an example…

I was halfway through the M.B.A. program.  I was sitting at my desk in my home office.  I had a mid-term paper to write.  I was working full-time and going to school part-time in the evenings.  I had been doing this for two and a half years and had about two years left.  I had put off writing the paper and had only the weekend left to do it.  I was tired from working all week, and didn’t feel like writing this in-depth paper.  I really just wanted to relax and do nothing.  As I was sitting at my desk, I broke down and started crying.  I put my head in my hands and started thinking things like, “I can’t do this… I want to quit… this is too much… it’s too difficult… I can’t do this anymore”.  Not only was I procrastinating during this time, but I was letting myself go into a deep, dark emotional abyss of helplessness and self-pity (which is a good distraction and a good way to continue to procrastinate). I could have been using that time and energy to start writing my paper, so that I could enjoy at least part of the weekend.

It was quite the dramatic scene.  After my pity-party (and wasting an hour of time), I took a deep breath and conceded to write the paper and stay enrolled in the M.B.A. program.  I got the paper done and two years later, graduated with the degree.  Sometimes, you don’t feel like doing the task at hand.  That’s normal.  And, when the Worry feelings get strong (really uncomfortable), it’s just your body’s way of telling you that the deadline is approaching and you still have work to do.  Once you do the work and get prepared, the uncomfortable, worried feelings will go away.  They are there for a purpose… to help you succeed.

Next week, we will look at the feeling of Hurt and what intelligence it’s trying to communicate to us.

This blog post was provided by Cindy M. Nelson, M.B.A., C.S.L.C. from Anakh Leadership Coaching LLC.  We specialize in developing business leaders and professionals by increasing their self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and overall effectiveness thereby increasing professional success and personal satisfaction in their lives.  For more information, please go to

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Cindy M. Nelson, M.B.A., C.S.L.C. administrator

As a Certified Spiritual Life Coach, I specialize in emotional and social intelligence coaching for business leaders and key managers to increase effectiveness and overall satisfaction in both business and personal arenas. I provide one-on-one coaching in person or over the phone.